Do your words to others come across confident and kind? Do your thoughts relay the same message? How often do you feel insecure while trying to put on a bold façade? Or you tell your church family how wordsblessed you are all the while you wish for more?

It’s common to put on a fake smile and not want others to know the issues that go on behind closed doors. However, the more you live with negative thoughts, the more discouraged you become. You can’t be happy if you think about what if’s, why not me’s, and how come’s. In order to feel God’s total joy, what you say needs to reflect what you think.

Isaiah 26:3 reads, You will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast, because they trust in you. The more you focus on Jesus, the harder it will be for those negative thoughts to creep in. I’m notorious for these thoughts, especially in traffic. I want everyone to get out of my way. I’m almost sure most don’t need to be on the road at the same time I do. Why don’t they just leave earlier? I know it’s silly, but that’s how I think.

It’s at these times I turn on my favorite radio station Air1, jack the tunes up, and get into the Christian music. Music might not work for everyone. I’ve just always enjoyed music. You just need to find what works for you. Maybe it’s reading the Bible or prayer.

antsThese negative thoughts actually have a name. They are called Automatic Negative Thoughts (ANTs). These thoughts continually fill our minds with worry and self-doubt. And like live ants, they seem to come out of nowhere. There might only be one or two one day, but the next there are several. If you don’t get rid of your ANTs, you will never have joy in your life.

One way to rid yourself of these ANTs is with reflection. Ask yourself why you feel this way? Most of the time it’s from past experience.  Another thing you need to do is replace them with positive thoughts. Find a good Bible verse and memorize it. When a negative thought drifts in, say your verse out loud.


We can complain because rose bushes have thorns, or rejoice because thorn bushes have roses. ― Abraham Lincoln 


Only when we look on the bright side of situations and reflect on the positive, will we become happier. And the more we focus on Jesus, the tighter we can close that trap door on our negative thoughts. Only then can our words truly reflect our thoughts.

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Once upon a time there was a woman who said “I am a former drinker, I was molested as a child, I had a baby out of wedlock, and I am divorced. How can Jesus use someone like me?”

The good news is that God can fix the broken. Matthew 11:28-30 reads, Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light. No matter how deep you’ve hidden the hurt, there is no where God can’t reach.

And once He has repaired that brokenness, He will use you to help others. Don’t believe me? Here are just a few examples:Time-Shields-web

1. Joyce Meyer was abused by her father as a child, and by her first husband. She is also a breast cancer survivor;
2. Irish pastor Tim Shields was a former homeless drug addict; and
3. World War II vet Louis Zamperine whose life the book “Unbroken” is based on was a former POW and alcoholic who had terrible nightmares about his ordeal until he heard Billy Graham speak.

These are just three examples of people who were broken until Jesus took them in His arms and gave them the joy they sought. He will do the same for you, no matter how deep the pain is you feel.


God is looking for broken men who have judged themselves in the light of the cross of Christ. When He wants anything done, He takes up men who have come to the end of themselves, whose confidence is not in themselves, but in God. – Pastor/Author Henry Ironside

Why would God allow such pain if He loves us? Sometimes we have to be so broken from the world it is only Him we see. You will then know His love is real. And once you are repaired, He will grow in you a need to serve others. To help those who do not know Him.

TeacherWhat might it be God asks of you? Maybe he wants you to teach small children, maybe he wants you to hold a Bible study for women who have gone through what you have. And just maybe, he’ll ask you to write books for Him.

By the way, the woman who asked the question in the beginning was me. He’s taken an insecure woman who wanted to hide in a shell and used her to write books, facilitate a women’s Bible study group, and speak in front of others. That’s His power.

And He’ll give you that strength also. Just life up your hands to Him. He’s waiting to know you’re receptive to His love.

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