Sibling Rivalry

I was in a store the other day and a young boy was crying because he wanted a candy bar, and his mother wouldn’t get him one. (It probably didn’t help that I grabbed a Snickers. What? I’m entitled. It’s not like I was going to eat it in front of the kid.) While he caterwauled, his sister sat there, not saying a word, watching him have a conniption fit. Eventually the mother asked him why he couldn’t be quiet like his sister.

How many of you remember being compared to a sibling? “Why can’t you be good like Billy?” “Why can’t you get good grades like Suzie?” “Why can’t you fly to the moon like your brother Neil?”

When you’re compared to others, in a negative way, you feel unloved. It leads to feelings of insecurity and imperfection. We’re all different and nobody’s perfect. No matter what the computer generated pictures on the front of magazines want us to believe.

God loves us no matter the circumstances. He wants us to feel secure in his love, that’s why he sent His Son to die for us. You don’t have to become a doctor or go to college to get God’s love. He gives it freely.

When you feel down, like you’re not worth it, go to him for strength and that God-loving feeling. (Psalms 16:1) Preserve me, God, for in you do I take refuge. He’ll listen. No voicemail here. And if you open your ears you might hear Him tell you how much He really loves you.

And remember, things could be worse. Imagine Jesus being your brother.


  1. I first was saying my Mom so did this to me…

    Then I looked at myself and thought….wait…I did this to my kids

    and Wow I never want to be compared to Jesus…OUCH

    But in your fun and whimsical way I feel convicted but in a way that makes me want to change…like right now.


    1. It’s funny how we can see ourselves in some of these. Some days I’m not sure I want to post them for fear people will realize it’s really about me.

  2. Darlene says:

    Many of us are guilty of that – I used it many times on my son to get him to behave like his sisters – guess what, it didn’t work!!

    Convicted, but forgiven by God for our mistakes. Aren’t we all so blessed HE forgives all.

    We can still remember to use this not to compare or expect everyone to behave the same. That goes for children and adults. God made so each uniquely different.

    Thanks, Kathy, for reminding me of that today.

    1. It’s wonderful that we can be forgiven for all we do wrong.

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