Is it Love or Just Easier?
I read in the news last week that a six hundred pound man needed to be cut through his house in order to get him to the emergency room. My first thought was who’s bringing this guy food. If he can’t get out of bed, he can’t buy his own. Someone has to be buying it for him.
It’s probably just easier to bring him whatever he wants in the way of food than to listen to him whine and complain. But that isn’t really love. Sometimes saying no is showing love more than giving the person what they want.
If your child wanted to play on the freeway, you wouldn’t allow it. So why is it so difficult to tell them no when they want another candy bar, even though they’ve had two already? Parents need to stop being friends and start being parents.
God loves us so much He allowed His son to die for us. Yet at times, He has to discipline us also. There is no free ride. He knows that overindulging is not a good thing. Everyone has to use some self-control with some issues. 2 Peter 1:5-6 reads, For this very reason, make every effort to add to your faith goodness; and to goodness, knowledge; and to knowledge, self-control; and to self-control, perseverance; and to perseverance, godliness.
If you have someone who is so overweight they can’t even get out of bed, don’t buy them junk food. Stick a bowl of vegetables in front of them six times a day. They might complain, but eventually they’ll eat it. Give them a weight for each hand and have them do minor exercises. They might start losing some of that poundage and want to lose more.
I’m tired of reading about these people who get so big they have to tear a wall down to get them out of their home. It’s not only unhealthy, but it’s humiliating for them. Television crews are on the scene to tape every moment of it.
Don’t think by saying no you’re hurting the person you love. It might be what’s best for them. Don’t do what’s easier for you. Do what’s best for them. In the end, they’ll thank you for it.