Are You an Enabler or Enabled?

My brother, a drug addict, is getting ready to turn 52 and still lives with my mother. He no longer works because he doesn’t have to. My father was an alcholic who she never stood up to. My mother’s an enabler. But then, so is the government.

If you’re depressed, take a pill, and the United States will call it a disability and give you a check. We’ve gone past the problem of it being the “me” generation. It’s now the “what’s in it for me” generation. People sue for nonsense. Parents already supported by the government have more children. If your state wants you to take a drug test to get benefits, the ACLU will sue for you. We’ve become a nation of enablers.

No one has to work and take responsibility for themselves anymore.

It’s time we stop enabling others and make people stand on their own two feet. Welfare was supposed to be a helping hand, not a lifestyle. We need to take responsibility for our own lives. What your parents did to you thirty years ago no longer matters.

This holds true for Christians as well as non-Christians. Did you know the divorce rate is the same for Christians as non-Christians? No one wants to work hard for anything anymore. Galatians 6:5 reads, For every man shall bear his own burden.

 If you aren’t working but collecting unemployment, give it to whoever is supporting you. Don’t have any more children than you can support, and before you take a pill for depression, volunteer at a homeless shelter or a charity for mentally challenged children.

I know this is more a rant than a blog this week, but I’m real tired of hearing excuses from people who want others to take care of them. We’ve gotten lazy.

We’re a nation of obese people because it’s easier to eat fast food than it is to wash a few vegetables. It’s easier to sit in front of your TV than to take a walk. We’ve become too focused on ourselves and not on others. That needs to change. We need to let God take care of us.

It’s time to take the focus off “me” and put it onto something else. Like God.


  1. Darlene says:

    You go, girl!! This is a rant that needed to be said. Sometimes God intends our words as a tool to convict others when it is needed. It is way past over due in our country.

    My grandson and his wife, who both work, cannot get a little help to raise their family because they both work and barely make over the qualifying amount. If they didn’t work, they could be eligible for a lot of programs. Its time to reward the hard working people and expect those that are “able” to get back to work.

    It is proven that getting up every day with a structured routine, going to work, accomplishing tasks, and interacting with others improves depression and a host of medical problems. Go figure, our government designs programs that discourage people from working and worsens their mental and medical problems!

  2. Thanks Darlene. Also people who work have better self-esteem and are more willing to stay out of trouble. That old idles hand thing, ya know.

  3. Darlene, Hardly a rant, but words spoken in truth. Enjoy your weekly blogs.
    Thank you, Genora

    1. Thanks Genora. Glad you enjoy them.

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