I came across an interesting article written by Nike N. Chillemi about the recent “bondage” fad in women’s fiction. I have to agree when Ms. Chillemi says these stories do nothing for a woman’s self-esteem. The worst part is women are the ones writing this stuff.
In the 1960s, women were told we could have both the family and the job. However, now we not only have to work and take care of the kids, but are expected to be sex kittens as well. We don’t know whether to stand up to a man in the boardroom or try to seduce him to get what we want. Television shows and movies can’t wait to tell us that seduction is the answer. And now women’s fiction is saying women should allow a man to control them to the point of physical pain and degradation. All in the name of romance.
Women should be considered sexy when they use their brains not their bodies. Isn’t that what the feminist movement was about? To get into the boardroom without having to put out?
I get it. Sex sells. But these bondage books take it a step further. Women are being controlled, demeaned, and humiliated in the name of love. And the National Organization of Woman (NOW) seems to have all but disappeared with regard to this subject.
Gloria Steinem, where are you when we need you?
I can’t help but wonder if the women reading this junk would do so if the heroes (and I use that term loosely) were making minimum wage and living in a two bedroom trailer, instead of the billionaires portrayed in these books. A relationship isn’t solid unless your man is treating you with respect, no matter how much he’s worth.
How do we expect men to respect us when we confuse them with this type of literature, written by women?
What it comes down to is respect. Women should demand respect not only from the men in their lives, but from the heroes in their novels as well.
If you’d like to read the article, it can be found here: https://nikechillemi.wordpress.com/2015/11/05/do-women-really-want-shades-of-bondage-or-do-they-long-for-real-man/