When the Words Won’t Come

A friend calls in tears with bad news.  A lump on her breast, a child possibly dying, or a marriage falling apart. Unfortunately, these are all part of life here on Earth. Psalm 9:9-10 tells us, The Lord is a stronghold for the oppressed, a stronghold in times of trouble. And those who know your name put their trust in you, for you, O Lord, have not forsaken those who seek you. Right here in this verse, it states there will be troubles.


At times like these, some of us find it difficult to come up with the right words to comfort others. Saying “I’m sorry” doesn’t seem enough. We don’t know what to say, so we back away. We tell our friend we’ll pray for them. That’s nice, but don’t just say it, do it. Pray for them right there in that moment when they are pouring their heart out to you. You don’t have to come up with something prophetic, just something simple like “Lord, please comfort her and let her know you are with her.”

And the next time you see them, give them a hug. You don’t have to have brilliant words when you are near. At times words can’t fix what a touch can.

And pray whether you’re together or apart. Turn the situation over to God. Get down on your knees for your friend. The more you pray, the more peace your friend will have. You also.


Don’t be afraid to share the situation in your prayer groups, either. If you don’t have permission to use your friend’s name, just say a “good friend.” Sometimes people don’t want others to know about their situation. We need to allow them time to prepare themselves for others to know. However, we still need to be praying. And the more people who pray for the situation, the louder it comes before God.


Sometimes, the best way to help someone is just to be near them. – Veronica Roth, author


But the most important thing you can do is let them know you’re there for them and that you love them. If they know you’re thinking of them and praying for them, it will help calm some of the pain inside.

If you can’t be there in person, send them a handwritten note. Sure the internet is faster, but a note is more personal and shows you were thinking of them more than just a quick Facebook post.

When friends are hurting, be there for them. Hold their hand when they cry and listen to them as they talk about the situation. Allow God to be in charge so He can alleviate some of the pressure your friend might be feeling.

Why don’t you stop right now and pray for the person who came to your heart while reading this? They’ll appreciate it, even if they never know.

If you or someone you know is in need of prayer this week, please leave a comment. We’d be more than happy to pray for you. And if this post moved you in some way, please feel free to share it.

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