People disappoint. They do things that hurt others without putting much thought into their actions. You might ask a friend if they can come over to a party on Saturday, and they say they need to check their calendar. Eventually, they tell you they have other plans. And then you find out they didn’t do anything but stay home.
We need to realize most people don’t like to tell you no to your face. It’s easier to do so through social media, e-mail, or text messages. People don’t necessarily mean to harm others, but we are imperfect. We also like to take the easy way out of a tough situation. And that usually means not saying “no” to you personally.
I’m not talking about friends or family members who have betrayed you with affairs or stealing, I’m talking about those that do little things that hurt. Not coming to your birthday party, borrowing money for bills and then purchasing a big screen TV, or asking to use your car and leaving you an empty gas tank. Minor things that can cause irritation.
We need to realize we can’t depend on any one person to not cause an emotional hiccup in our lives every once in a while. But as Christians, we have someone we can rely on totally. Jesus. He is always with us. And He is perfect. He will never turn away from you. He will also never harm you emotionally like a friend will.
Jesus tells us, in Matthew 5:48, Therefore you are to be perfect, as your heavenly Father is perfect. People will do things that are unpredictable. But God’s love is always predictable. We can count on Him when others let us down.
The truth is, everyone is going to hurt you. You just got to find the ones worth suffering for. – Bob Marley
The more time we spend with Jesus, the less our emotions will lead the parade when friends or family let us down. We have to allow our heads to prevail. This will give you time to decide if the betrayal is worth keeping the friendship. Depending on the extent, sometimes it is. Sometimes not.
When others hurt us, we need to think about how we’ve hurt God. We don’t do what He asks of us. We killed His Son. Yet, He forgave us. Isn’t that how a Christian is supposed to behave, by forgiving those who’ve hurt us as well?
Keep an eye on God so when others hurt you emotionally, you’ll be so focused on Him, you might realize they were just being human. Your friend who couldn’t come to your party might just have needed a day off from life and didn’t want to hurt your feelings.
Just remember others are not perfect, and neither are we. We’ll mess up also. But in the end, God still loves us. And as such, we should still love others, even if they let us down.
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